Fat Girl Walking by Brittany, Herself

Fat Shaming
This essentially means that you are making fun of someone for their weight. We all assume because someone weighs more than what the public deems as normal that they are compulsive eaters. They will all end up being carried out of their houses by a crain while 20/20 films their journey for weight loss.

Skinny Shaming
This essentially means that you are making fun of someone for their weight. We all assume because someone weighs less than what the public deems as normal that they are anorexic or headed in that direction. They will end up strapped to an IV because they refuse to eat because they don’t want to gain any weight.

They are crazy similar though…alright. I am sure you have all heard of fat shaming, but what about skinny shaming? Not all ‘fat’ people are compulsive eaters and not all ‘skinny’ people are anorexic. There is a cultural perception of the two and it is different in every country. I remember reading that hundreds of years ago, the fat people were rich and owned the skinny people, their field workers. The fatter you were, the cooler (and filthy rich) you were.

I have had a weight fluxuation of 40 pounds over the last few years. Not only did I get sick of buying different sizes of pants and bras, but I was sick of the stares from the people surrounding me. When I was at my largest, 150 pounds at 5′ tall, I was obese by the cultural norm in the USA. I got the pity looks. Poor Amanda…what happened to her? When I was at my smallest as an adult, 108 pounds and still 5′ tall, I am considered normal by the USA. Normal is all relative though. I had SOOOO many people approach me to tell me I was too skinny. Clothing hides a lot people. A LOT. It hid my wonderful muscles and if they had seen themthey would not be calling me skinny, I would have preferred the word ripped. 510mSnyKBjL._SY344_BO1,204,203,200_My point being, that no matter what size you are, people are going to try to pick you apart and tear you down. You need to be comfortable in your own skin! I have a friend who happens to be the most brilliant writer known to mankind (seriously, no shit, I don’t joke about this kind of stuff), an advocate for positive body image and her first book debuted last week. Fat Girl Walking: Sex, Food, Love, and Being Comfortable in Your Skin…EVERY INCH OF IT. 

I laughed so hard that I cried, and I also cried so hard that I had to take my contacts out for fear of losing them. Brittany is as real as it gets when it comes to talking about her body. You will relate to her on every level. She is breaking down the sterotypes about your body, she is telling us all that we are all beautiful and worth it on all levels, and you know what? She’s fucking right.

When you read her blog, Brittany, Herself, you’ll be thrust deep into her life and you really won’t want to leave. The best part is that her writing mimics her personality and the way she actually talks. If you are reading it, she will 100% say it to you in person. Anyways, I’m long winded tonight but I’m trying to tell you to buy her book. Seriously, just buy the damn thing and I guarantee you won’t regret it.

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